Me F (32) have been dating M (33) for a few months, first month of sex was great idk if it was the anticipation of someone new since I was in a 9 year relationship prior or what. But i told him im pretty sexual, i like rough sex, sex outside the bedroom in public etc. He’s never had sex outside of a bedroom & he’s VERY gentle with me. He doesn’t really initiate sex, i know he wants it but I’m usually the one that has to take the lead.
I encouraged him to like thrust harder by letting him hear i enjoy that more but that’s all he does. He hasn’t given me head yet, i tell him he can choke me he kinda just place his hands on my neck & i asked him to pull my hair last night & he held it very lightly & let go.
He’s great, very nice, attentive, supposedly doesn’t cheat, gives me all his free time, i love him a lot but he’s sometimes so vanilla
& also prior to dating i asked him do he see himself as a provider or 50/50 he said provider. But now it’s he don’t believe in primary provider but I’m confused how that makes sense because he says he’ll pay the rent & would prefer i pay utilities, if we travel he says he’ll cover everything but i have to get my plane ticket & he covers all dates. I also don’t like that he doesn’t seem to care to fight for a relationship, he’s more like a “well If that’s how it is bye” type. Which i get in someway like if i cheat but i don’t think he realizes challenges some relationships go through, he’s only been in 3 relationships 1 was likely HS, & only 1 lasted up to 2 years.
How should i talk to him about my concerns without making him feel some type of way, he’s sensitive.