Im honestly not really sure what flair to use, and well, its been like this for years for me. Normally whenever I have sex, it just feels like its going in and out, just there. Occasionally it feels really good but usually its just ok….i dont get the big deal. This is regardless of how frequently or infrequently I self relieve. There doesnt seem to be any pattern I can ascertain.
That being said…I definitely have sexsomnia and will definitely wake up during it. And when I do? Holy shit this is amazing. However it really sucks that when that happens good luck finishing. Im not sure if it just feels too good or if its from waking up. But I struggle to finish when that happens, and then I get in my own head. Then it stops feeling as good and well…yea nothing.
Im not sure if im getting overwhelmed, overstimulated, over think, probably a combination of everything. But its so hard to just relax and enjoy. I want every time to feel like that. If it did holy fuck id want it every day.
Its not from a lack of effort from my partner. Its definitely not my partners problem either. Its been like this for my previous few partners where sex just felt like it was there.
I know this is my issue…I just dont know how to fix it.
I know I get over stimulated. So I try to close my eyes and just focus on one thing. But then something else happens and I cant just focus on that one thing and then just.
It becomes anxiety for me. How will it go this time? Will I be able to finish will i enjoy it. Will I get over stimulated. Will a smell or sensation bug me? Oh im horny maybe it will feel really good nope it just feels like im going in and out.
Fuck man…I want to enjoy it fully like I know i can..I want to crave it like others do.