I’ve been married for nine years, and my husband has been the primary breadwinner. After having my third child, I stopped working, but I used to do side jobs like Uber and Instacart when he got home. However, I stopped after our fourth child turned six months old because things were becoming overwhelming at home, and my husband wasn’t contributing much to managing the household or taking care of our four children, two of whom have disabilities. This situation took a toll on me, leaving me exhausted most of the time.
Fast forward, and I’m still struggling with his inconsistency and lack of respect for me, even after speaking to him multiple times and even taking couple’s counseling. He now spends most of his time playing video games. During his time off, he doesn’t help with the kids; he simply plays games all day. He was gone for work for almost two months before he returned, and I informed him that I needed two days off from home because I was overwhelmed. That never happened; I’m still doing 24 hours with the kids.
For the past few days, he has been unwilling to provide money for the children. He eats out when he’s hungry knowing that he did not provide nothing for the children.
Not to mention, he’s going away for his job for a few months soon.
At this point, I’ve become numb to his actions and anything associated with him. It’s as if I don’t care if he comes home late, doesn’t contribute to the household, goes to bed at 2-3 am because he’s playing video games, watches pornography, or engages in any other behavior that bothers me.
Last time I cried because of the reality of my marriage, and it hurts.