My girlfriend enjoys pain play during sex, and has said she’d like me to try a belt on her ass sometime. For people experienced in BDSM, how do you use a belt to safely inflict pain? Maybe this is a dumb question but I have never done this before and have only used my hand
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In my experience fold it double, less long, more control, less “whippy”… but that is just me of course
Fold it in half and thwack her with it, staying in communication about how hard she might like the impact to be. Also, aim for the meaty part of her butt and avoid hitting over the hipbones or spine.
As everyone else said, fold it, hold the metal buckle + end of the belt in your hand. Then smack her ass with the folded leather end. Try to aim for center mass, you don’t want to catch in between her cheeks with the edge of the belt or hit her in the back/hip bones. If anything, aim lower than you think you have too, getting hit on the back of the thighs will definitely sting but it won’t legitimately hurt like getting smacked in the lower back would hurt.
As someone else said too, definitely have a small discussion beforehand in regards to how hard she wants you to go. Establish a safe word, this is non negotiable. If she’s really into spanking? Odds are she is going to be making sounds that do not SOUND like shes enjoying it, she may actually cry at some point too. It’s vital that you know how she may react, how hard she wants you to hit her ass and how she intends to signal you to stop when she has had enough.
If for any reason she tries to say anything like “As hard as you want!” or “I don’t need a safe word”? I would refuse to do it. This type of thing requires IMMENSE trust from both of you. She needs to trust that you will push her to the brink of the mountain side and pull her back in before she falls to her death. And you need to trust that she will notify you in a very clear manner when she’s about to fall off the cliff so you can stop before you push her over.
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