I try to be a man that shares the mental load with my wife. The things I usually do is:
Clean, most of the time the kitchen
I do 99% of the laundry.
I also cook at least 4-5 times a week.
I give medication for our kids that need that. My wife gives one and j give the two others.
I put two of our three kids to bed most nights because my wife usually wants to lay down in the bed and if they don’t want to be there with her I put them to bed.
I do 95% of all yard work. Anything that has to do with the pool I do. I mow the lawn and now that it is snowing in our country I am the one who shovel snow.
On top of that I take the dogs for longer walks since even though my wife wanted to buy a second dog she doesn’t like to walk far most days so I do it.
I tell the kids to do their homework and try to practice instrument with our oldest.
One kid needs to be fed in a special way ( medical stuff) and I’m the only one who does it when we are home.
I am trying to get better at playing with the kids even though I sometimes feel stressed because of the other things that need to be done.
We both work but she is on sick leave due to burnout. So I did this before the sick leave but am of course doing it more now.
I just wonder am I doing enough? Does yard work count? Does playing with the kids count too? I mean it is good for them to play with a parent isn’t it? But I don’t know. I constantly hear about men who are not good husbands and fathers and even if they do something it never seems to be enough. Am I doing enough?