I wanted to hear everyone’s take on how they handle criticism from their in-laws. I always thought each spouse should handle their own family's issues, meaning if my family was being rude to my husband, then it would be my role to reach out to my family and correct them. I’m just not sure how to handle it. To put it into context, My grandma in law came over and made several rude comments in front of my daughter about me. I corrected her, but I guess she was a little upset. So she started to continue to make rude comments and my husband said he stopped her, but I didn’t hear anything from him. I feel like he’s gaslighting me. ultimately one that stuck out to me was that she asked my daughter if she would like for her to hit me while I was wiping food off of her face and she was crying.
Today I asked my husband to confront her because I clearly tried to do it at the moment and she didn’t listen, she wants to come over today to see my daughter and I don’t feel comfortable with her being over. I just wanted to see how other couples handle this situation. My husband tells me that I should put her in her place but I just don’t feel like I should because it’s his family. Maybe it’s cultural differences because we are different ethnicities however, I feel like this should be a universal thing.