Please refrain from using insults, condescension, or name-calling. If you don’t have anything kind to say, you can simply scroll past.
For those willing to offer genuine advice, thank you.
A few days ago, I noticed my husband was struggling and not managing his stress well. Today, I asked him what was going on because he didn’t seem to be improving. He told me he feels stretched thin between work, our finances, our dogs, our families (who are going through a difficult time), and our relationship. He’s frustrated with life in general and feels like he has always had to be the strong one who solves everyone’s problems. He’s the oldest and only son of a Hispanic mother, and they grew up poor, so I understand where that pressure comes from.
What’s bothering me is something he said during our conversation. He told me he made certain life choices and now has to live with them—including family, work, and our relationship. He also said I wasn’t initially the kind of partner he imagined for himself. For context, I’m an only child, I grew up with financially comfortable parents, and like many women, I’m emotional and can be a bit needy. He often tells me I’m “entitled” because of my upbringing.
The point is: seeing that he’s unhappy with life and that I apparently wasn’t the type of partner he envisioned, would it really be terrible of me to leave? I know some people might think it’s wrong to walk away, but he literally told me that my personality isn’t what he was necessarily looking for, even though he chose to marry me. Doesn’t that sound like he settled?
Please tell me if I’m interpreting this wrong. It’s been driving me crazy.