How do you go about regaining trust when its been broken multiple times? My husband "had" a porn addiction. I've found things on his computer and called him out on them, after telling me he would stop I have found more things, new things, more intense things than before. All of this ended maybe a year ago. We have two kids and I want to stick with it for them. Its easier to stay because I stay at home with them and plan to homeschool them. I feel so disconnected with him, but anytime I bring it up or say I just dont trust him he gets mad at me like get over it already, I said im sorry (like that should be enough?) On top of that he just seems incredibly selfish and worried about his own stuff until I say hey, remember me? He vapes and smokes marijuana all day every day, and then when he's off work (WFH) he drinks a PINT or more of vodka (he's 6'7" and 380, his weight gain is another sore subject) to be fair I am the reason we dont connect anymore because I simply do not feel attracted or lovely with him anymore. When he promises to quit vaping, 3 years and counting, and drinks himself silly nightly, it just makes me feel an ick about him. On top of the fact that I dont trust him anymore.