I am a 26yo man. Since I was young, I have this deep fear of objectifying women and therefore subconsciously suppress my sexuality. On the other hand, I feel a lot of performance pressure because I was judged on several occasions by previous partners for being sexually insecure, not taking enough lead and not being dominant enough.
Those factors make me fear sexual contact and behave very platonic instead (which resulted in tons of great friendships with women) but I feel like I will never experience sexual satisfaction and the feeling of being desired by a woman if I don't get this fixed. And at this point, it started to also affect my sense of identity, feeling like I am not man enough to be desirable.
Are there men who went through something similar? How did you regain your sexual confidence?