My partner 35F came out as Ace. I'm fine with that, I'm not mad at her or anything about it. It's who she is. On the other hand, I 36M am very much sexual. She insists that she's okay with having sex, but I am struggling. I don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex? And so many things are either off the table with this. Like she doesn't want me to go down on her, doesn't want to eat ass or swallow during a bj. Any sexual contact since she came out feels clinical and not impassioned? I just feel anxiety now any time we do anything sexual.
So I'm wondering, after 7 years, do I move on?