TL;DR; : In a serious relationship with a foreigner girl for 10 months seeking advice

Hi everyone,
I '24M' will be 25 in 3 months in a serious relationship with a woman who is '29F'. We’ve known each other for a while, and things have become genuinely meaningful. She is caring, mature, and has been one of the best influences in my life.She is a foreigner and recently I visited her and she treated me very well.

I didn't know that she is 29F, during this trip I got to know about it and she didn't have courage to tell me because she could have lost me. But i checked her passport which made a not so good situation.

I have known her for 10 months now. She is emotional and sensitive person.I feel safe and secure with her.

I am a software engineer and have 3 years of experience.

The only issue is the age difference.

My mother is very emotional and traditional. I know that the moment age comes up, her first question will be:
“How many years difference?”

She is likely to worry about things like:

“She’s older than you?”

“Will this affect your future?”

“What will relatives say?”

I want to tell my mother the right way, without hurting her or creating unnecessary drama.

My questions:

  1. How do I break this to my mother in a calm, respectful way?

  2. How do I reassure her emotionally and logically?

  3. Has anyone here managed a similar age-gap situation with parents in India (or similar cultural background)?

  4. What worked for you, and what absolutely did NOT work?

  5. If parents doesn't agree then what option I have?


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