My (34F) husband(37M) of 10 years is a good person, but he really lacks effort, both in our relationship and around the house. He will do what you ask him to do in the moment but only that. I’ve brought it up several times, tried to explain how it affects me and us, but there’s been little to no real change. It’s reached a point where I’m starting to wonder if he might be on the spectrum, or if he just doesn’t care enough to follow through.
I’m not looking to bash him, I’m just really tired and discouraged.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and actually seen things improve?
What helped? How did you get from repeated conversations and no change… to your partner genuinely stepping up and putting in effort again?
Would really appreciate any advice or success stories from people who’ve been there and managed to recover their relationship.