Hi, I will try to keep it short. I am married to my husband for almost 9 years, we recently had a baby who is now around an year. I have always felt like my husband tries to teach me a lesson in future when I do something wrong which annoys him or hurts him. I don't do it intentionally of course but he thinks I am not good enough for anything. I suffer from chronic headaches and migraines and need to rest a lot sometimes to manage them so he gets home and baby load at that time. Also I am very protective of our baby and he has been hurt few times while on my husband's watch. I complained that to him each time that he should be more attentive. Recently we were out on a vacation and he was feeding our baby, baby got hurt and started crying. He didn't pick up the baby and tried to feed him more while he was crying very hard. I completely lost it and snapped at him and took baby in my hands, there were his side of cousins too with us. I felt really bad soon and said sorry the moment we were alone together. He didn't say much and we moved on with our vacation. Today our baby got hurt on my watch, and I called him to check if baby is ok but instead he started yelling at me why were you not attentive with baby, how did he get hurt etc intentionally to make me realize how he feels when baby gets hurt and I blame him. Btw I was taking care of baby and was already feeling bad, not force feeding him. We had a huge fight and ended up shouting at each other. I don't like this behavior but I want to know if I am wrong here or his tendency to take revenge/teach lesson all the time is wrong.