My husband '31M' and I 'F25' have been struggling. No matter how I react to him yelling at me he finds a way to mock or belittle me for it. We've been together for about 7 years but married forn 5 months. We have a 2 year old girl. All our relationship (other than a few depressive points in our relationship) my husband had been a very easygoing guy. Even during those times when either of us was depressed he supported me through it without any issues and was very affectionate, and I the same. He works, alot. And I've recognized this. I recently stopped working full-time and work half days all week. This has been a blessing as I've had time to grow in faith, cook amazing meals and desserts and to spend time with our daughter. We can easily afford this and it was mainly his idea. With me being off I can handle the tasks we normally have to complete on the weekends during the week. So the weekends are ours. I thought this was great news. My depression has severely lifted, the house is cleaned and organized, there's always already made food ready, and he gets more time to relax etc. But my husband just gets less and less happy. What confuses me is he seems pretty content at work. He works with close friends and his job is primarily laid back (but is very long hours). I thought him coming home to a clean house and food plus a happy toddler would elate him. But he walks in the door and starts a fight about something before he even changes out of his work clothes. Sometimes he'll even start a fight about scenarios that haven't even happened yet or ever.Yesterday he cussed me out for 45 minutes straight because I didn't have the time to get an oil change and I didn't park my car where he wanted it (I parked where I've always parked). Even when I went to go move it (I can't see well at night and we live out in the country) he cussed me out and screamed at me while I was moving it because I didn't move my car in the order he wanted. Today I was showering alone and he barged in the tub while I was showering. I welcomed it (it's never sexual just showering and talking). He went to walk by me to rinse and I slipped. I cried because I bruised both my knees pretty badly. He helped me up but then yelled at me for not having the mat in the bathtub for an obscenely long time (it was hanging out to dry and I wouldn't have slipped if I was by myself). Recently I find even at work I am extremely happy and at home I've even happier until he gets home. Everyone tenses up. Even when I go to get my daughter and I tell her that her dad is at home waiting for us she whines and says "no". When he yells and I yell back he just yells louder. When I cry he mocks me or asks me why I'm crying after he just screamed at me. If I have a neutral response he yells at me because I'm "acting weird and have been for months".When I bring any of this up to him he says "I didn't mean to, I'm sorry" and then does the exact thing once or even twice the next day. Sometimes I feel he secretly hates me but benefits too much from me to let me go. I plan on approaching him about therapy, but has anyone come back from stuff like this?


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