Me and the love of my life have been together for quite a while.
Despite that, it seems that I still make mistakes. I wouldn't expect it any other way, since I am a human being after all.
However, I'd think that after a relationship this long I'd have learned how to avoid these simple and avoidable instances.
I think that it is exactly BECAUSE it could have been so easily avoided, that the anger levels were this high.
Anyways, to the actual story:
Yesterday, my love asked me if she could come home early to work from home. I have a work laptop that she occasionally uses and I'm totally fine with that.
I of course agreed and I was happy to see her home early.
Laster that day, I was supposed to have a work-related zoom meeting, but due to the different time zones (over 8-hours difference), the scheduling of these meetings is usually fluid and is not set in stone. We have a specific usual hour for the meeting but that changes from time to time.
This time, I got a call asking if we could have the meeting on the spot, while my love is still working on her own things.
I went to her and asked if I could have the computer to have my meeting.
I don't want to assume how it seemed from her point of view, but I believe that it seemed forceful and maybe a little dismissive towards her.
Of course, justifiably, she was furious and went out of the room so I could have my meeting and all.
I know that this could have been avoided easily if I had just communicated better either with her, or with whom I was supposed to meet and moved it around to 30 minutes later. But alas, this hindsight is not helpful at the moment.
Later that day she said she doesn't want me to sleep next to her and I went to spend the night in a different room.
Note, that this sort of occurrence is extremely rare and is only reserved for EXTREME issues. I had no idea that this has hit some nerve and that it has made her THAT angry.
Now, she is still upset and it seems that I have nothing more I could do.
If I apologize, which I already did, it will not help. In her own words "what will I do with your apology?".
If I act like everything is fine, then I'm dismissing her feelings and not acknowledging the way I acted.
If I try to do anything at all, it comes off as if I'm trying to "suck up". For example, yesterday, before I even had a clue she'd be angry, I decided I would order her food, since I know she wants to work from home again, and has a deadline, so I don't want her to waster time on ordering and whatnot. Now, that the food has arrived, it seems as if I only ordered it for her as some sort of an apology.
At any rate, I can only conclude that I have to "ride it out". This frustrates me to no end and thus, I turn to the wisdom of reddit.
Keep in mind, that I have always strived to learn from my mistakes and see that I do not repeat them. So, this has been registered as a no-no in my brain and I have no intention of repeating this silly little mistake.
Now…
Is there anything at all that can be done?