~50M HL here. 20+ bodycount over my life. I have never experienced coming from receiving head. Each girlfriend etc partner over the years has attempted it. Multiple times. None have been even close to “making me nut”. Including the ones who are self proclaiming to be very good at it, with a track record of making guys come quick.
Never happens. Usually the pattern has repeated: when it’s a new partner I let them roll and do their thing freely. No expectations and no guidance or hints at first. Usually it’s been from outright horrible to mildly stimulating. Never even close to “good”. On repeat attempts trying to guide them gently hasn’t resulted in any notable improvement. Neither does very explicit guidance yield any results, just frustration after a while when they clearly can’t “get it right”. Also going back to unguided “just let it roll like you know how to” doesn’t make it good either.
Is there a trick to it? I’m around 50 and apparently have never learned it. Maybe I don’t understand what’s good about receiving painful teeth nicks, poor finger handling, uninteresting and unstimulating suck and lick. (To add: never have been able to come from a girl jerking me off either. That also has been mildly stimulating at best).
Overall I have high stamina. 1 hour is no problem. Don’t come easily overall. Vag & anal are both fine and fun. However receiving head is a clear step down from this: it’s usually so much worse that it risks killing off the whole vibe and mood, unless I summon every internal mind trick to stay aroused.
This experience of never having had good head has led me thinking: what’s it like for guys who enjoy it? For someone who comes fast from it? That seems so ridiculously removed from the reality of my experience that it’s hard to even imagine. What am I missing here?