I, 34M & my wife 32F, have been married for almost 8 months now. We’ll have been together for 6 years next month. Prior to us being married, we never lived together. She’d usually come to see me at my parents place (where I lived), and we’d have sex maybe 2-3 times a week and it always felt great. We had discussed if we’d have more sex once we lived together and she said absolutely.
Well, once we got married, we moved in together shortly after with her son (9), mother, and sister. Her sister just recently moved out. Everyone has their own room and privacy. Since we moved in together, it feels like our sex life has dwindled. Maybe to about once a week, MAYBE twice sometimes. There are a lot of times where it just feels like there’s no passion from her end. I’ve always had a pretty high libido, so it’s frustrating for me. And for me, if she’s not into, I can sense it and then I’m turned off. I’ve openly discussed this with her and alot of times she’ll say she’s tired or she’s in some sort of pain (she’s on her feet all day for work, so I understand). But, even on days where she doesn’t work, she’s tired. Or even times when we do have sex, it feels like there’s just a lack of passion and it feels like she’s doing it as a chore.
I’ve been open with her about this and she says she’ll try to change things. I even bought her some libido gummies, but I haven’t even seen her take them (unless I’ve reminded her). Offered to get into the gym to help alleviate the stress we both have and be more confident in ourselves. It just feels like it’s not important to her but it’s important to me, and I feel like it SHOULD be important to her.
And I feel like a couple that is less than a year married should be ALL over each other. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Am I overreacting at this point? Any advice would be appreciated. Please be kind.