I love my husband I really do but I need to vent and also need some advice. I’ve been a stay at home mom for almost 2 years now. We have a son who is almost two years old and our daughter is 9 months old. As a stay at home mom I get zero breaks as i am also exclusively breastfeeding my daughter who refuses to take breast milk from a bottle, sippy cup, straw cup you name it. Let me say kids 2 under 2 is not always easy.
I do the cleaning, the cooking, appointments, taking care of the kids. Now before anyone says anything I understand my husband works hard to provide he goes to work and makes sure all bills are paid and i am grateful and appreciative. When he gets off from work I do understand he would like to decompress and so would I. Parenting should be 50/50 not you come home and get to do what you want while i am still tending to the kids and cleaning up. He likes to say oh so i work hard and still have to come home and work. He wants to just be able to come home and not do ANYTHING or help with the babies. He thinks because it's my role that I should be able to do everything by myself and that I should just be serving him with a smile on my face because he provides a paycheck.
I will cook dinner and serve everyone and be the last one to eat because I’m helping my toddler and the baby eat and he won’t even help wash the dishes because to him it’s my role. There are times he comes straight home and goes to the bathroom and then into the garage to workout and doesn’t even take the initiative to ask me if i need any help. There will be times I’m like hey i need to get a workout in because I want to workout and he will say oh you should have did it while I was at work. I meet his needs whenever he needs or wants something but mine are not. As a stay at home mom I’m trying to still find myself and find some hobbies that I enjoy to myself because i am just a “mom and a wife.” If the kids are crying especially my daughter he gets upset and won’t deal with it. As a mom who put her career on hold to be home with the babies i am feeling pretty down.