I’m almost 22 and I’m a woman.

I hate dating. I hate dating apps. I hate swiping. I hate inflated likes filled with guys entirely to far away. I hate sending messages and receiving no messages back. I hate situationships. I hate nonchalant mfs. I hate bad texters that like phone calls more but are never available for a phone call. I hate feeling like I’m talking to a wall. I hate being the only person that asks to hang out. I hate only connecting romantically to men that are afraid of commitment. I hate hate hate getting told how great I am. I hate wanting attention. I hate laying in bed and wishing I had someone to hold. I hate looking at my phone hoping for messages that will never come. I hate getting asked why I’m still single. I hate being overwhelmed with a deep feeling of loneliness that won’t subside.


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  3. I feel you, I’m 21 nb/afab and the feeling of loneliness and yearning really just eats away at you at times.

  4. I get where you are coming from. I felt ALL those things. Which is why I left the dating apps completely. I feel SO MUCH better. When I was on the dating apps it started to mess with my mental health. It started to give me anxiety, depression and feeling like not good enough. I even cried too. I kept wondering what the heck is wrong with me?!? Why am I struggling so bad? I kept wasting my money on the app(s) too. Just kept getting no where. Running in circles basically. Have you tried the burn hay stack method?? It may help you. It can be benefiting.

    I gave up on the apps. I just had enough. I just opted to meet people in events or meet ups. I can honestly say I feel much better. No more swiping. No more liking this. No more weird conversations. It’s just 100% better! If you can go that way I suggest doing so. At least attempt to go to meet ups.

  6. How would you like to be approached in real life ?

    IRL problems. Don’t know if you are single (most lightly won’t be).
    When/where is a good time to start a conversation ? ( chasing you down the street might not go well)
    If I the words fail to flow or a joke goes badly will I be labeled a creep ? etc

  7. This is because the apps do this purposefully. They will ONLY show you to people that are entirely too far away to be practical. Why? Because if they show you to eligible people that are close by and actually let you connect, you would easily meet someone very quickly and would be off their app very quickly. Thats not good for their bottom line. They make money if you stay lonely, single, frustrated, and on their app. If you swipe right or send someone a like thats near you, do you think they are obligated to actually deliver that message, like, or superlike to that person? Not at all. Most probably get sent directly into the void. The same for men. They are scam apps run by American grift organizations. They used to work properly and amazingly when they were small and independent. But that soon stopped as soon as they were bought up by the big dating corporations. Most notably Match Group. So you are not alone. That deep feeling of loneliness and frustration you feel about why the apps arent working, do men not find me attractive, etc, is the apps working perfectly, as designed. Remember the apps are not there to help you, they are there to make money for the company. And intimacy and love is one of the things that all humans value the most. So they will guard their product very carefully and not give it away without a high cost. That is the dystopia we currently live in.

  8. >I hate getting asked why I’m still single.

    Same… I’m a mid 30s guy but three of my five best friends are female (two married and one engaged) and they occaisonally say stuff like they are surprised I am still single since I had a breakup 6 months ago and have been looking for a new gf ever since. “You’re tall, you’re good at talking, you like to cook, what’s the problem? Women should be running to you! If I had been single when we met I probably would have dated you” yeah friends, I agree they should be running to me, but they don’t lol

  10. I completely understand the frustration with dating these days. I get it and have been there myself.

    Learning to let go. After all control what you can and understand what you can’t. Control emotions, actions and how to turn up. Accept that you have done everything you can. Can’t make someone do anything and even if you could, it wouldn’t be genuine would it? Be fine with the outcomes. Doesn’t matter whether someone comes or goes; you are good either way.

    For me I don’t care about relationships and dating. If someone comes into my life great but I’m also great with out it. I have found my purpose and direction in life so I’m full. A partner would just be a bonus.

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