We take turns at morning watching E. (our toddler) so other can sleep. Before I took E. at morning and next day my husband should have taken him, but my mom (currently we all live in my parents house, till we are able to move out) took him so both of us could sleep. So today, after the day my mom took E., I said to my husband to take E. at morning because it's his turn. He didn't want because his turn was yesterday but my mom took E., so it's my turn now again. I said that she took it, letting him and me rest and now he should take because before my mom I took E. So he was upset, but took E. But he watched E. in our room, where I slept, not take him downstairs, where E. could play and go wild. So, E. a lot of times loudly cried, was throwing toys around and my husband was watching YouTube videos loudly and I kept waking up constantly. And when I asked him to watch E. downstairs, my husband refused saying that he doesn't want to go downstairs because my mother is downstairs, although I told him that she won't be in the same room as him. He still refused and when I said that I can't sleep because of all the noises, especially E. throwing things around, he said that he is just a baby and it's normal to throw things around. Then he told me to go sleep downstairs myself. And after still all the noises continuing, I went. But I feel so upset and sad. I feel hurt because I explained how this is selfish – I need to rest and sleep, but because of him I kept waking up yet he won't take E. downstairs because he feels uncomfortable cuz my mom is downstairs in a different room? It's so selfish. And he keeps saying that he did nothing wrong, that he has right to choose where to be and he kept saying that I also watched E. in our room when he slept. And I did it before but I saw how he was bothered by being waked up by loud noises, so I am always now taking E. downstairs so he can properly rest. He says that just because I did it, he doesn't need to do it. And then later he started to say that a lot of men don't take care of children this way and watches them like that, implying that I should be grateful that he takes care of E. at all.
I feel so hurt, especially because we have had a lot of arguments for past multiple days due various reasons and most of it is because he does things that hurt me a lot and when I come to him to talk about it he doesn't take accountability and writes it off as me making problems. I feel so hurt. If only it would be one time issue, but it is not… we have huge trip coming up soon and overall my husband feels kinda easily stressed so, especially lately I feel him being kinda mean and unfair, as he was not always this way. Just however much and good I explain what he does and says is hurting me, he does not acknowledges it and he always has "reason" for what he says and does, which is not actually good reason, and he keeps saying that I'm causing the issues.
Can someone tell me if this is actually a problem from my side as I am not understanding because he is stressed, or what?
If there's any questions, I'll answer to best of my ability.
TL;DR it was husband's turn to watch our toddler so I can rest at morning, but he kept waking me up and eventually said that I should go to sleep downstairs instead of him taking our kid downstairs so I don't need to wake up and go downstairs. He said other hurtful things also.