I (28F) married to my husband (32M), and I’m really confused and uncomfortable about his dynamic with his boss (42M).
His boss recently gifted him a phone worth around $900, which already felt strange and way too personal. But it doesn’t stop there. He randomly calls my husband at any hour of the day or night, and my husband feels forced to drop everything and go along with whatever he says — even if it’s the boss telling him to come hang out in the middle of the night.
Whenever I try to point out how inappropriate and controlling this is, my husband gets mad at me instead of seeing the issue.
The worst part is that whenever my husband tries to set even the smallest boundary, his boss reacts by sabotaging his work — refusing to give him tasks and even manipulating coworkers into avoiding or not helping him.
I don’t understand how this is a normal professional relationship, and I’m starting to feel scared about how much power this man has over my husband and our marriage.
Is this something anyone has experienced? How do you even deal with something like this?