I am in the military, I am currently in Korea. My fiancé who I met in Washington (F22) and my mother (F57) have been spending time in Georgia. In WA my Fiancé didn't have good internet for college, so we thought sending her down to GA while I was processing out of Korea was a great idea. Government shutdown. Got stuck for longer and now I have a flight date in December.
Mom and Fiancé went on a cruise, they agreed to spend wifi plan on fiancée phone so she can keep up with college. My mother who just wanted an update from me opened a snapchat from me, and would read messager exchanges; that would be all but she was posting stuff on fiancée Facebook without her consent.
Fiancée confronted her and she flipped out. She was locked out of cruise room for a while, she was called ungrateful and "tearing my family apart". Fiancée calls me, I side with her because I think this all stupid overreacting. Get on the phone, mom tells us, if fiancée leaves she wouldn't be able to face the extended family at Christmas, nor be able to look Fiancée in the face. My mom then continued saying more stuff like "Can't you see I'm terrified?" and "You broke me".
I have an older sister (F27). I have been gone since I was 17 and I always thought she was being dramatic with describing how manipulative my mom was. She also helped talk to my fiancé. This whole situation wasn't a fast flare up, my mother also said stuff like "If you were institutionalized, you may put my grandkids in as well" and "You are only with (My name) because he's in the military". Fiancée is currently in Texas with family. We are trying to decide on going to my family in GA.
Oh and my grandma isn't doing too hot health wise.