I'm M 36. I've been single (Divorced) for 3 years now. I did therapy (still going on and off, just as a precaution)
I'm outgoing, I've been told many times by male and female friends that I'm funny, kind, interesting to listen to, compassioned, a good listener and a good friend.
But still it seems I can't catch a break. Like I get matches on dating apps, some are even real people lol, but I get ghosted. Mostly when they find out that I don't like bars, concerts or "spontaneous" trips to other countries. I'm a calm, nerdy guy. I cook, I clean, I am semi fit, but I'm not flashy or wealthy. More and more, I feel like most women only care how much i make and how flashy of a lifestyle I can give them.
I know this is not true but… it feels like it.
Just last week, I went on a first date. She was sweet, funny and looked like her pictures. I made us a small picnic (homemade cookies and Olong tea) as a surprise for her.
She said she really enjoyed it. I made more cookies for her to take home for herself and her kid.
We talked, joked etc for like 5h. Until the day of the date we where sending multiple long voice messages every day. Now it has been 6 Days since i got a reply from her…
It's so frustrating.
I'm so so tired of trying over and over again.
If there was at least a reason. Like " i didn't enjoy myself" " i don't find you attractive" etc. id be happy, but just getting ghosted is so low.
For the straight women, I'm grateful for any advice.
PS: sorry for my weird grammar, English is not my native tongue.