So my wife and I have a joined bank account in which our pay checks are deposited into, but we still have our own accounts too. The own accounts are for our own spending without having the other person judging. That doesn’t mean we are hiding these from each other though.
A few months ago I was looking at my wife’s account to look up a specific transaction (I wasn’t snooping) and I noticed a lot of OF purchases. Like a lot. It was around 300$ to 500$ a month.
First of all, that is way more money that we decided on to be in our budget for just random spending. Second of all, I don’t like the idea of my girlfriend paying money to see other girls naked? Like watching porn is one thing but paying for it is another.
I immediately talked to her. I told her that I saw the purchases. That it’s not within the agreed budget and that I don’t feel comfortable with her purchasing it in the first place.
She agreed to stop.
But a few days ago I checked her account again and instead of OF purchases I found a lot of transactions at the gas stations within the same amount. My guess is that she is buying pay safe cards to then use for OF. I actually don’t know if thats possible bc I have never had OF before.
I asked her and she said that she completely stopped and that she is buying other random things at the gas stations like cigarettes, energy drinks and so on. She agreed AGAIN to try to keep it within the budget.
I don’t believe her. I don’t like that I don’t believe her either.
Have you ever dealt with a partner consuming OF like that? I would like to her some advice because this situation is seriously bugging me.
Edit: fixed spelling