My girlfriend (F24) and I (M25) have been dating for about a year now. Her birthday is in three weeks and I want to do something special for her. She already has lots planned for her birthday weekend with her friends/family. In addition to this – I'm hoping to take her out for dinner, bake her a birthday cake and make her a hand drawn card.
I'm trying to decide what to get her as a gift. I've been keeping notes on things she's said she wants throughout the year for ideas. I'd really like to get her something she likes.
Recently we were shopping and she asked if I could get here a designer Coach handbag for her birthday. I said that it was too much money and I wouldn't be getting that. But now I feel bad – and I'm considering getting her a Coach handbag anyway. Well I checked their website and their products are expensive! €295, €595, €600 – I felt a cold sweat just looking at them.
I was having a look on second hand websites like Vinted – and they have options that are significantly cheaper. But I'm not sure if buying second hand is acceptable for a birthday present. What if it makes my girlfriend feel like I don't care enough to buy her something first hand.
I'm wondering how other people feel about this. Would you be upset if a partner told you they got your gift second hand?