Hi all so I’ve been in a long term relationship since I was in high school therefore have not experienced lots of different sex. Some may think this part is weird but if you get it you get it, don’t hate 🤣 so I’ve been getting into spicy books they are more fantasy based. My thing is I’m really figuring out what I WANT. How do you go about that like what is ok to ask for during sex?? I hate that I actually have to even say anything bc that’s part of the whole thing. I know some people are naturally already that more rough dominant style but for someone who’s not how do you “encourage” it.
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“Hey, I came across X. If you’re not against it I’d like to try it out sometime.”
Just ask/tell them. They can’t read your mind, and communication is important not just for sex, but relationships in general.
You gotta communicate! It’s the only way.
I get it. We all want to have a telepathic lover who just knows exactly what we want. And that’s core in most smut, they skip over all the talking about fantasies and boundaries and just have amazing weird kinky sex and it was exactly what everyone wanted even though they didn’t talk.
That’s the fantasy part.
The rest can become real. You can have it.
One easy way is to clip and send him about five of your favorite pieces and ask him to read them, tell him what part gets you going, and then later ask him which bits made him hot.
If you don’t want to communicate (which sucks, but some people are really not into communication), then make him read the stories you like, and highlight the parts that really turn you on.
If he’s not a dumb guy he’ll understand lol.