As the title suggests , if I don’t do something it simply won’t get done . I am the breadwinner , though my husband also has a high paying corporate job . I do nearly everything and pay for all the big expenses : mortgage , childcare , utilities , car insurance , maintenance etc . ( I don’t really keep track but he does pay for some groceries and dinners out and the internet )
He says the right things asking “ how can I help ?” What can I do, etc which bothers me off the get go because it is like “ well no one is telling me what to do , I’m an adult .”
But to the point , things will literally just never get done if I don’t do it . Laundry would never be put away ( we do our own laundry and I do the kids , but he doesn’t put his away . It just sits in a pile on the bedroom floor which he pulls clothes from until he has to do more laundry and he would never put the kids’ clothes away . It would sit on their floor until I did it .)
Is there hope ? He can’t take out the garbage until I remind him , he fired our landscapers and then has not maintained our lawn or hired a new group . I have no more room on my plate or mental load to take on more but sometimes I feel like my load would be easier if we divorced and I. Just had to manage our kids’ lives
I am sure he has undiagnosed adhd but again he would never do anything. About it .