my husband invited his nephew to stay with us for a couple of weeks at a time every few months. the backstory is he is 28 and epileptic. his mother and father want nothing to do with him and we have him stay with us in order to give his grandma a break whom he regularly stays with. he has epilepsy so can’t work or drive however when he stays with us all he does is watch tv and sleep. we have to clean up his dishes, cook for him and clean up after him in general. when my husband is at work he will wake me up early on my day off by watching tv in the living room and when I get up he wants me to talk to him and entertain him and asks me a lot of questions. he also wants me to cook for him. I am not in the mood for this in the mornings before work. I do not understand why he is incapable of cooking and cleaning up after himself. what bothers me is after waking me up he takes a nap while I have to go to work. he also has no money but wants to go out and expects us to buy him groceries. it is just an added expense we cannot afford. money is already tight. I am dealing with a stressful job and health issues myself. he is also incapable of cleaning his dishes and filling the dogs water dish, taking the dog for a walk. I feel he is capable of doing these things but chooses not to and uses his ability as an excuse. I am annoyed because when I come home from work he is sitting on our couch with my husband watching tv, I can’t even do that after work. I feel bad for having these feelings but honestly I am so over it and having second thoughts about our marriage now because of this. Am I a bad person for feeling this way? I feel like a horrible person but it’s just the way I feel. I deal with adults acting like children all day at work and am too tired to deal with this.