Whenever I read up on difficulty reaching orgasm, I always see the concept that orgasm becomes more achievable and sex more enjoyable if you stop making orgasm the goal of sex. I understand the idea, and I understand why this works, but I just can’t seem to get myself to unlink those two things.
For me, sex serves two purposes 1) connect with my partner 2) orgasm. Orgasm kinda seems essential personally, I think because I often feel very frustrated and like I’ve been forgotten if I don’t orgasm— especially if my partner does.
How does one become okay with not finishing during sex, or at all? How do you cope? Any resources like articles or videos would be appreciated.