Hi everyone, my (28F) husband (28M) husband went out tonight. Whenever I go out it’s usually to dinner with my girlfriends, never anything else and I keep him updated about where I am and when I’m coming home.
Well tonight he said he wanted to go out to a cigar lounge with his friend and meet up with his other male friend afterwards who recently went through a miscarriage with his partner.
My husband never goes out so I wanted him to enjoy himself. However when I got home from work I noticed he was getting dressed really nice, drinking, blasting music, etc… I asked him the names of the places he was going and he told me to the cigar lounge, then he told me about this speakeasy/club that I’ve been to before we ever met. I expressed the bar/club part made me uncomfortable and he said “why it’s gonna be couples.” He then tells me that all his male friends are bringing their partners except the guy he’s going to the cigar lounge with. This broke my heart.
I don’t feel this is appropriate being married and Christian’s. I tried expressing this to him and he blew up on me saying I was being hypocritical basically because I go out to dinner with my girlfriends, and that he’s allowed to go out. I asked him when he’d be home and he told me he didn’t have an answer for me and that there’s nothing I could do to stop him.
I started crying because he was being so incredibly rude about it and he just grabbed his stuff and left.
I’m so hurt that he would want to go out with couples and not take me. I’m hurt that he thinks it’s okay to go to bars/clubs late at night. He told me “men and women aren’t the same.”
I feel so tricked because this is not how we are and we have never run into this problem before. I will say he doesn’t go out at all so I know he deserved to go out with his friends but the setting is what’s bothering me, and that he thought to leave me behind when it’s couples.
Can someone tell if I’m wrong and how to handle this as a Christian wife. I have no one to seek wise counsel from and I feel so heartbroken.
I’m just at home worshipping and praying 😔