Hi everyone I 20M have never had a girlfriend before but I do have a-lot of girl-friends. I believe I'm average looking at best but more leans towards chopped. I have no problem talking to girls but I generally can't tell when one likes me.
I can easily tell when one doesn't like me as I assume it from the beginning. Something I've realized is one girls sign is another girls friendly. A-lot of my girl-friends have opened up to me about personal things that seem like stuff you'd tell either a girl-friend, boyfriend or person you're interested in. Because of this I've basically gone the last 20 years of my life not believing any girls have had any romantic interest in me. Hell, I once had a friend who is known to have a flirty personality intentionally send me a spicy gym picture and I asked why she went "Well I know you rarely get anything like that." It was a pity picture. (Btw at the time she was talking to this other dude and openly talking to me about him).
The way I go about approaching girls whether to be friends or if I want more is the same way. I try to get to know them and see if they click with me. I make the same jokes, comments etc to everyone. Sometimes I let the girls know from the beginning I find them pretty but most of the time I want to grow a connection with someone before getting infatuated especially with looks. Looks isn't enough to make me want to peruse a girl, tbh there isn't really much. I barely see a point in it anymore.
I had the thought that these girls may think I'm gay but I make it clear I'm not and if the time is right I do bring up ex situationships and sometimes an old friends with benefits. I just don't understand what I'm suppose to do from here. All these girls I talk to whether friends or more talk to me 24/7 while playing games with the men they like while acting disinterested. If a girl acts disinterested does it mean she's into me? I just don't get it at all and it has made me want to give up on dating in general because the games seem so ass backwards. What have you guys noticed when a girl likes you? Do you think I'm doing something wrong? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!