I 27F have been in a relationship with a 32M for 1 year. We have had some rocky times but I really love him and we get along really well most of the time. He has a dog who is untrained and is allowed to do whatever it wants. I have had issues with that throughout our relationship because when I am at his house trying to have quality time with my boyfriend I feel like the dog was always interfering or I couldn’t have boundaries with the dog and I am expected to allow it to do whatever it wants as well.
I used to spend the night at my boyfriend’s house frequently but because the dog was constantly jumping on me/kicking me/moving around all night I was being woken up the whole night. I had brought this up to my boyfriend multiple times but was told that it was my fault because I made the dog nervous. It came to a point that I no longer spend the night with my boyfriend because there is not enough room for me in the bed and I get little to no sleep when I’m there.
My boyfriend brought up us living together and I mentioned the sleeping arrangements and he said I’d have to make it work that he would not change anything about his dog sleeping in his bed and that if I can’t figure it out then our relationship won’t work. When we go on vacation together we both sleep perfectly together when his dog isn’t in the bed and he already has a king size bed so bigger bed won’t solve this. How should I resolve this issue or is this a sign that I should call it quits?
TL;DR my boyfriend’s dog prevents me from sleeping at night in his bed.