I (20M) have been seeing this girl (20F) for 3 weeks or so that I met at a bar. We’ve been out on 7 dates since, on the 4th we had sex for the first time and have done it every date since. I was a virgin before, so everything is still kinda new to me and I’m figuring things out, she wasn’t. We’re both not seeing anyone else so I’d like to improve. When we do have sex, it’s pretty much always been the same pattern of making out, clothes coming off, I’ll finger her and she’ll give me a hand job, then we do missionary until I’m finished. If she hasn’t finished by then I’ll use my hands until she does and then we’ll cleanup and cuddle for a bit.
Sex is definitely fun but I also feel like I want to explore a little bit more and that I could be doing some things better. I think she likes me taking the lead, she lets me initiate almost all the time but will give me the signals to do so, there was also once we were goofing around and I pinned her wrists with one of my hands and she said it turned her on. One thing I struggle with is transitioning from making out to sex, I’ve made out with my fair share of women but I’ve only had sex with her so escalating it there still makes me nervous even though I know she’s super into it. I guess I’m wondering what I could suggest or do to explore or make things more interesting, in terms of positions or ways to initiate or literally anything. The only thing I know is off the table right now is giving or receiving oral, that’s due to her past and she said maybe in the future she’d be comfortable trying but for now she’d prefer not.