Hey all, I hope this is a good place and a good flair for this.
Some context: I(27F) usually have about the same sex drive as my husband(26M). I’m due this week to give birth to triplets (pray for me 😭)
Last night while we were putting our 1 year old to bed my husband brought out that we’ve had a dead bedroom since the night I got pregnant. The way he said it felt sorta passive aggressive. I thought about it and it’s definitely true that there hasn’t been any activity. I mentioned him not initiating and he brought up multiple instances of him trying and getting rejected (which I remember now).
I’ve spent a pretty significant amount of time thinking about how to explain to him what it feels like to be pregnant as well as the amount of work that goes into maintaining our household with minimal help from him. I can handle maintaining the house without him or being pregnant but both at the same time is very hard😅. He is the sole source of income in our house and works a very demanding job to provide. Which I’m extremely grateful for. However, when I have mentioned him helping more at home in the past it’s turned into a fight almost every time.
He expressed that he feels like I just don’t want him as much anymore.
How do I explain that it’s not a lack of love for him but I’m feeling fat, exhausted, and disgusting and just can’t handle sex unless he picks up some tasks around the house in a way that doesn’t result in a screaming match?