My fiancé (m24) and I (f23) have been together for 6 almost 7 years and engaged for 2. We have been living together for most of our relationship. My dad (m55) is sick and has been for many years, which makes him miserable at times. He gets aggravated at most things and sometimes you feel like you have the walk on egg shells.
Him and my mom (f51) are also in a tough financial spot so both of them are under a lot of stress. I am not in a place financially where I can move out either. My fiancé has a strong dislike for my father due to having to walk on egg shells most days. I completely understand this is frustrating but he is ill and stressed.
This has become a major stressor on our relationship. My fiancé, after years of living together with my parents wants to move out and live with his mom. I find this difficult because it feels like we are going backwards in our relationship. I am also concerned how I will tell my parents this without them resenting him for it. I am looking for advice because I love him and want to be together, but this has caused me a lot of stress. I value my parent’s opinion and don’t want them to dislike him. I also value his opinion though because I understand how my dad can get. But then again, this is my father and my family who I love.
I am not looking for judgement, just advice.
TL;DR: my fiancé doesn’t get along with my father and it has become a massive stressor in our relationship.