Context: hadn’t talked to my bf all yesterday because i was busy with work and he was doing his usual 6am–2pm job and then apparently a 5pm–2am shift which has never happened. we only did quick check-ins via text.
he was off today so i went to spend the morning with him, just cuddling in bed at his place. i was scrolling on my phone because i wasn’t tired, but he was knocked out. his phone kept ringing and the caller id just said “st” that’s it. no idea what that could’ve been. i didn’t wake him, but they kept calling like 10 times back-to-back.
i answered hoping to tell whoever it was that he’s sleeping and to call back… and it was another girl. she immediately asked me who tf i was. i hung up, went into his phone, looked at their messages, and yeah — he’s been having a whole romantic relationship with this woman. for how long? no clue.
i went through his pics and it’s only me and us. nothing of her. but the messages? “i love you,” “i want to have a baby with you,” “i talked to your mom,” “i talked to your brother.” wild part is… i’ve talked to his brothers and mom too. so how is this happening? either he’s feeding both of us different stories or his family’s covering for him, idk.
i woke him up and told him straight up he’s cheating. instead of apologizing or even defending himself, he just kept asking how i know. that’s all he cared about. not what he did just how i found out.
we were literally planning to move in together soon. and he constantly tells me he has nightmares of me cheating on him. even last night. meanwhile… apparently that’s exactly what he’s been doing. he disappears for long periods of time and i always give him space, but now i’m thinking about every weekend he said he couldn’t hang out… he was probably with her.
i wish i got her number but my adrenaline was through the roof.
i left immediately and now he’s blowing up my phone saying i don’t trust him, blah blah. i haven’t told him how i know, and i’m not going to. he knows the truth just as much as i do. do you think he deserves to know?
this has never happened to me. i don’t even know how to move on from this. but i will never be with him again, i respect myself.
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tl;dr: found out my bf of 1 year is cheating on me. i told him and instead of apologizing he only cared about how i knew. he’s now blowing up my phone and threatening to show up at my place tonight.