My, 33F and I, 31M, had broken up over the weekend after being together there for over a year. While I was very understanding of the why (not happy with herself and feels as though she wants to have a break from relationships) I’m left more confused as time passes.
While we talked she had mentioned that I treated her the best she’s been treated, that she actually could look at me and know I love her, things like this. While I did feel better seeing her and knowing that it wasn’t just hard on me but on her too, I’m also left confused as to how I should think of this. I’m not sure if this is a break or breakup, especially since she and I had both said we want this to work out in the end but recognize life is uncertain.
When we spoke, I expressed my reflections I had about my faults in the relationship and how I want us to keep moving forward together. The answer remained the same with her disagreeing with my faults, and placing the blame on the failures of the relationship on herself.
Because we are very similar, I’d think that her attachment style and my own are the same, avoidant, as we both became distant from each other when life became overwhelming rather than talking.
I’m not sure how I should approach this now? I talked to some people and they had said that if I think this is worth fighting for then I should say something, since I have nothing lose and/or I get clarity as to what we’re doing moving forward.