I F20 been with my gf F20 for 1 1/2 years. recently she’s been acting a little suspicious; taking her phone everywhere even if shes gone a second, hiding her screen, etc. i did the thing & checked it. not my best moment i know. i saw messages about how she fantasizes about being with other people and that she thinks sometimes she could do better than me. at the end she called the girl babe and idk, i just have no clue what to do. i feel horrible and can hardly look at her. it’s been a few days so she definitely knows somethings up, i just dont know how to approach this. how do i let her know how i feel without accusing her ?
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“how do i let her know how i feel without accusing her?”
You accuse her? Nothing she’s messaging is okay in a healthy relationship.
That would be a relationship killer for me. Find someone that values you bro and move along.
Just tell the truth and ask her to clarify what she meant in her texts. You opened the pandora’s box and if you avoid talking about it now you will be consumed by the thought of your girlfriend hiding things.
I don’t think there is any other approach besides breaking up with her.
Might as well have caught her cheating if she is saying stuff like that about you… You just uncovered the truth of how she feels about you behind closed doors, to your face she is fake.
Why continue to be with someone who doesn’t even like you?
What would a confrontation turn out like?
>I didn’t mean it! Of course I love you. You’re the best thing ever! I was just joking. That’s not how I actually feel about you!
Clearly that would all be a load of BS.
There is nothing to discuss here. Your Gf doesn’t even like you… Might as well break up and go find someone who says nice things about you behind your back, not someone who resents your existence in their life.
I’d dump someone if I found out they were saying those things about me… What you discovered is just as damaging as catching her cheating. Horrible things to say about the person you’re suppose to be in love with.
Break up with her and find a woman who actually likes you and wants to be with only you. She wants to have sex with others. She can do that as a single woman. She also thinks she can do better than you. Another reason to break up. Do it ASAP before she cheats.
It’s okay to be hurt. Anyone would feel that way after reading something like that, even if you regret checking her phone. The best way to bring it up is to focus on *your feelings* instead of accusing her, like “I’ve been feeling insecure and disconnected lately and I want to talk about it,” and let the conversation flow from there. What you found isn’t nothing, though. You deserve honesty, and you deserve someone who actually wants to be with you.