Some of this is a vent post as much as asking for help. My partner and I moved together to a new city a little over a year ago, chasing the dreams of new adventures and opening up the business of my dreams. About 5 months ago, he sat me down and noted where he had been feeling distance and difficulty in the change of living in the city so we discussed ways we can both better support each other. We have been doing monthly check ins since, trying to ensure we are still actively supporting each other. I have felt I have done more, but in reflection that can also be a matter of not making my needs known more consistently as he has intense ADHD.
Where my resentment is starting to bubble up… the business is taking more time to grow than initially anticipated, making money in the house tense. He has been helping keep things going from money from a sold house, but hasn’t been working. He has been fighting seasonal depression and the financial stress, so I’m looking into part time work. I feel myself stretching myself super thin but in my awareness he hasn’t started looking for work. He also hasn’t sought help for his mental state when asked to, including providing free access to providers and resources within my network. I’m starting to hit my breaking point, but I still want to show up for him, my business, and keep everything.
How do I express that if he doesn’t either start seeking help or start pursuing a career that I may break from all of this? I’m really confused and trying to do everything I can right now.