Hey all – so recently I've been having doubts about my relationship with my girlfriend. To give you the gist, I'm in the military and met her while living in Puerto Rico. We got together and after I was able to get an apt, she moved in shortly after. We were living together for the next few months and eventually I started to lose feelings.
There was definitely a difference in libido, hers being lesser than mine, and I placed a lot of value on sexual comparability. She wanted to be in it for the long haul and that scared/stressed me out. Eventually we broke up, spent a few months apart, and then got back together.
After a while, I had to transfer units and go back to the states. We agreed on her flying out when she was in a good place to do so to move in together, and now we're renting a place together and both working.
There's still a difference in libido, and recently I've been feeling just really down/depressed in general and I still feel like I'm not ready for something truly long term. I know she wants that – marriage, kids, the whole nine yards. I'm not sure I feel the same way.
I've been thinking about bringing my feelings up to her so she knows what's going on in my head, and I've been wanting to get into therapy to work through my feelings and whatnot and will wait to make any but decisions until then.
I've talked with my mom about my feelings before and she told me that I'm still pretty young and still trying to figure life out and who I even am and want to be. Maybe I'm just being fickle or something? I just don't really know what to do and could really use some input. Thanks.