Hi,
I'm autistic and dont really know how to start one of these posts, but basically, my wife filled up the dishes overnight after i had painstakingly washed and emptied it last night. I have no clue how she used so many dishes, but its full again, and I really dont want to empty the sink AGAIN, especially when 80% of the stuff there is hers, and she has told me in the past that I need to wash whatever I use because she wants to keep the kitchen clean. She's been very stressed and so has begun to neglect house chores, which im fine picking up the slack on, but this for some reason boils my blood. It feels so inconsiderate. On top of that, her stress has her on a hair trigger and her anger is vesuvian sometimes, so I really dont wanna make her mad. How can I gently tell her that she needs to use less dishes since Im the one taking care of all of them?
TL;DR, wife filled sink with dishes after i had just cleaned it, need to know how to tell her without triggering anger.