Me M/20 and my partner NB/20 feminine have been dating for a a long time coming up on 6 years so all through highschool pretty much and on in college. We are both bisexual them much more so than me I have an attraction to both genders but much more towards women or feminine presenting people. Anyways throughout our relationship starting a few years ago they have brought up wanting to open up the relationship so we can try having sex with other genders to experience it which back then I said I couldn’t do that. And most recently started asking about a 3 some which I think isn’t so much because they want a 3 some but because they want to have sex with a girl. I love them very deeply and desperately want to be able to find a solution in which we are both happy. I have no desire to have sex with anyone else as of right now and as long as I’m in a relationship don’t think I’d personally want to experiment with a man so if we were to do that it would pretty much just be them that is having sex with other people. I would prefer to be monogamous but I also don’t want them being unhappy and resenting me so it’s kind of a lose lose situation. I think I could get onboard with a 3 some more so because then we are both involved in it and if there’s regrets we are both apart of it but I’m worried that they don’t actually want a threesome and view it more as an only opportunity to have sex with a girl which wouldn’t be fair to them. They say that sex isn’t very intimate to them as it is to me and they wouldn’t mind if I had sex with other people. I think I could be fine with it if it was truly a one time thing to experience what its like for them but I worry that it’s more then just a one time thing based on how they view sex and that they will continue to want to have sex with other people. I’m not definitive on if I could never do this or not in the future it’s possible I would want to do the same but I just have no way of knowing and certainly can’t promise them that someday I will and rn it would probably hurt me a lot
Has anyone found themselves in a similar situation?
And has anyone found a solution to this that works?
Is it possible that they do try it once like it and then decide that they don’t want to do it anymore or that I change my mind and eventually become okay with it