I (m22) have been in a situationship with T (m26) for almost 3 years now. We met when I was 19yrs old, and he was 23. At first it was supposed to be a FWB situation, but we both caught feelings and decided to enter a relationship.
About three months in is the first time I found out he was cheating. Still on hookup apps, hitting up people in our local queer community. I unfortunately was VERY naive and blamed it on myself. I was angry though, and hurt. I spent everyday basically tracking his moves and even catfishing him at some point. I personally couldn't tell you when he was or was not cheating on me. We would have all out brawls simply cause I'd beg him to be mine. Even to this day, he still talks to other men.
Here's my problem, we have been on and off for a very long time, but living together for about a year and a half. We've gotten used to each other, we both settled for whatever was going on. I would try my hardest to try to make him want me, and he would still go behind my back cause he "needs the validation" whether I'm giving him enough attention or not.
Last week, everything came to a head and kinda exploded. He has a habit of kicking me out then begging me to come back like an hour later, but this time he asked me to move out and I have been staying with a friend on and off, only really coming back to see my cats. He is so determined that he can be "better". He wants us to be together, but I simply don't know if I can trust him or not. He has been going to therapy, and he said he is wiling to communicate when he feels like he needs other men, but I simply don't think I should have to hear about how he is struggling to not cheat on me.
My friend, (F45), has offered me this fully finished shed in her backyard. My brother already rents out one of her rooms, and she is willing to let me stay as long as I need to get on my feet.
I don't know if I should just take the opportunity, or if I should give him another chance…
What is your advise here?