I came across a video of a gay man talking about his marriage to his straight best friend, as the title suggests they are in a lavender marriage raising a child I assume is either theirs biological or was conceive by one of them outside then brought into the marriage…this doesn't really matter. Which made me think, I have resigned myself completely from looking or finding a romantic partner. And his perspective for why a lavender marriage works made me realise that romance isn't or shouldn't be the basis of marriage to begin with, he spoke about alignment and friendship (emotional compatibility and connection, co-parenting, being in the same financial bracket and genuine respect) which to me sounds like a sweet deal, more importantly, he mentions that sex was off the table, which leads me to believe they either have toys or partners outside of the marriage. Would you do something like that and why, cause honestly I don't see why marriage shouldn't outline an equality distribution of happiness and peace, everything he said sounded peaceful, shared responsibility, skincare and laughter…?