My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years and not that I believe in soul mates but hes the closest thing I imagine a soul mate to be. He's my best friend, my rock, my cheerleader, my human foot and hand warmer and so much more. He is the most fun loving, passionate, funny, caring person youll ever meet. Hes a living ray of sunshine and a gem of a human and there hasnt been a day ive woken up where i havent been lucky to call him mine….but he has, what I unaffectionately call…a "uni-tooth" (not that ive ever told him that). He has a literal wall of tartar encasing 5-6 (only 2 stick out from the tartar so im not sure how many are in there) of his bottom teeth that makes it look like one big long yellow tooth and its been very heavily affecting my attraction to him.
Its been over a year now that ive been asking him to go to the dentist or to go and get his teeth cleaned or to do anything at all to remedy the situation and everytime he responds with "ill make an appointment soon"/"im just waiting for the right time"/ "im working on it" ect ect but like….nothings been done and no appointments have been made and I dont know what to do at this point. Its been going on 14 years that hes been to the dentist.
Ive even straight up told him a few times that while I still love him im starting to lose my physical attraction to him, I dont want to kiss him on the mouth bc I can taste it, his morning breath is getting to be offensive and that being the reason why intimacy is becoming few and far between and he always responds with "ill make an appointment soon" but never does. Ive even gone as far as to offer to make the appointment for him or go with him to the appointment but declines and says he wants to handle it himself. Ive asked him if hes scared of the dentist or if hes nervous or if theres anything at all i can do and he said no. In every other aspect of his life hes responsible, reliable, clean and his hygiene is great, its just when it comes to his teeth that things fall apart.
I love this man with my entire being. We've never had any issues in our relationship. After 7 years the only negative thing I have to say about him is literally that he wont fix his teeth and I wish I could magically make this not be an issue for me but it is and im starting to not be able to look past it anymore. I cant even kiss him outside of a peck on the lips and I fear its becoming a deal breaker.
Do you have any advice on what else I could say to convince him or things I could do to change his mind? Or even how to make this be a non-issue that i can look past? am becoming desperate and I really don't want to bring a breakup or an ultimatum to the table.