I (18 almost 19f) and my bf (21m) have been living together for almost 3 months, he works full time and I am a full time student with a part time job.
I am expected to do the majority of the chores when coming home (dishes, cleaning, laundry, etc) and I feel like I am almost ordered to do them? Like ordered around, even when I have homework to for university courses. When I don’t do them when he expects he says that I don’t “do what he wants”. This usually leads to me crying and upset, not because I have to do chores but because I almost never get any help at all with them and then the blame is put on me.
I have brought this issue up a few times before and usually am met with “well I work full-time and you don’t and I’m tired when I come home” while that is true I feel like the work and mental load is the same for me? Correct me if I am wrong but I just need advice on how to communicate this so I do not lose my mind in the future. I don’t want to be miserable for the rest of my life. I do really love this man I just don’t know what to do especially when I am in a city by myself.
TLDR: Bf rarely helps me with chores and claims that we do have equal work loads throughout the day (full-time job vs full-time uni student and part time job haver)