My husband and I have been together 10+ years, married for 6, and recently I gave birth to our 2 month old baby. When I was pregnant I discovered that he accrued credit card debt among other things. His debt and loans amounted to $40k, he also spent $6k on a road bike and a mountain bike, spent unknown thousands on collectable cards (Pokémon, baseball), and had no personal savings. He makes great money ($150k+) so it’s extra shocking that he spent so much money to not have savings and end up with debt. He also hid it all from me because he was trying to fix it on his own without me finding out. In the past he also gambled some unknown amount and has also lost $14k by investing all his savings in one company’s stock. We had many fights about this and he has expressed remorse and that he is turning a new leaf. We cancelled all his credit cards and are gradually paying off the debt. Is this a deal breaker? Or is this relationship salvageable?
Here are some additional pros and cons for context:
Pros:
– we generally enjoy spending time together
– he contributes and is involved with the family and household
– he is a good father
Cons:
– bad with money
– no physical intimacy
– no sexual chemistry
Tldr- my husband is bad with money and hid his debt from me but said he has changed. Is this relationship salvageable or would most people walk?