This is a strange one from a few weeks ago. It still makes me pause when j think about it, and I didn’t have enough karma to post before.
Someone sent me a message on a non-dating site several weeks ago. We immediately struck up a conversation and things "seemed" to be going well. In the back of my mind, I had a lingering doubt of the whole situation. But, went with the flow.
Fast forward to the last week of October, and conversations got really serious from both of us. But, it immediately crashed and burned.
We've only met once, and that was online. We'd been looking forward to meeting, face-to-face, at the end of November because we don't live in the same city. But, that's not going to happen.
She started pressing for answers about where I saw things going. (That's fine). But, when I kept talking about seeing how things go at the face-to-face, it seemed to incense her.
Finally, on Halloween, things were ended. She kept insisting I was "pushing her away" and "rejecting her" because I couldn't answer some questions, and because I kept looking forward to that in-person meeting. She felt we'd already met during a short 15 minute What's app video call that SHE ended abruptly due to having to get back to work.
I'm of the mindset that you cannot truly know how things are really going until you're actually in the same room with the individual. Has that thought process changed with new generations and the internet?
To cut to the chase, she finally called me a "soulless animal." When I told her I'm sorry if I made her feel that way, and maybe things would change when we met, she basically said that wasn't happening. I said I was sad to hear that and wished her "good-bye." There was a long keyboard silence before she finally said, "You're a coward and you should die!!"
If a person REALLY cared for someone what could possibly prompt them to say something like that?
Granted, it was Halloween, and she'd just came back from a party in her city, so there was probably drinking involved. But, that doesn't come out of the blue. The alcohol just releases something that's in the back of their mind.
Guess I dodged a bullet on that one. Kind of sad because, at least on paper, this really looked good. Of course, there's also the lingering thought at this point that it was too good, and she was a catfish who found out I wasn't the prize she was hoping for, and this was her way of getting rid of me fast, so she could find someone else.
But, I really hate to be that cynical.