I am a 27 year old woman and I went on four dates with a man my age. The first three dates were great and full of chemistry. The fourth date felt completely different and I am trying to understand what happened. Here is the full timeline.
Date 1: Tacos and a lounge
We met for tacos and drinks. The vibe was fun and flirty. He seemed very interested and engaged the whole time. We texted a lot afterward.
Date 2: Sunset hangout
We watched the sunset together and the chemistry was very strong. We got carried away and ended up having unprotected sex. Afterward, he left to get dinner by himself at a place that was right next to where I live. He did not ask if I wanted to eat with him or if I was okay.
I also had to buy Plan B by myself. He never offered to get it or help with it. That made me feel strange
For added context, after date 2 we actually had an emotional check in because he dipped to get food without checking in on me after we got carried away in his car. He later told me he panicked, went into fight or flight, and apologized for handling it poorly. Things felt cleared up afterward so I continued seeing him.
Date 3: Romantic dinner
This date felt really good. We connected emotionally. The conversation flowed easily. The chemistry was still strong and he was warm and affectionate. It felt like things were moving in a positive direction.
Leading up to Date 4
He told me he had a stressful week. He had work issues, deadlines, school exams, and he had not eaten properly that day. His texting tone felt lower energy, but not in a worrying way.
Date 4: Everything felt different
It was raining heavily and I did not feel safe driving far. I asked if he could meet me closer to where I live. He agreed and drove over.
When he arrived, his energy was completely different.
No warm greeting.
No kiss.
No excitement.
No flirty vibe.
He did not open my door.
He seemed tired, distant and disconnected.
At dinner, the conversation was normal. He talked and joked with me. But the romantic energy from earlier dates was gone. He felt emotionally checked out.
He also let me pay for dinner, which surprised me because he had not done that before.
After the date he sent a very dry text that basically said he was good. A day later, he unmatched me.
No explanation. No closure.
What I am trying to understand
Why would someone go from excited and consistent for three dates to completely checked out on the fourth date. Was it stress. Was it the change in plans. Was it something I did without realizing. The shift felt so sudden and I am hurt and confused.
EDIT:
For context, the unprotected part was not intentional or careless. Things escalated unexpectedly and we both got carried away. I got Plan B myself afterward because he did not offer, which surprised me but I still gave him the benefit of the doubt at the time. I know it wasn’t the safest choice, but it came from emotional intensity, not recklessness.