Misogynists hate the word "feminist". It's basically "Voldemort" to them.
Spare yourself from their bullshit (and save yourself time) and make, "I'm a feminist" the first or second line of your dating profile.
The spam-swipers who don't read women's profiles might sneak through, but on the whole, do yourself this favor.
Edit: hey folks, it worked out for me. That's all I'm saying. Can't hurt.
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You can also just ask about political and religious leanings prior to meeting. Keeping yours vague doesn’t give them room to lie about theirs. There are predatory people on apps like this who will lie about their affiliations to get into your pants.
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I would absolutely expect people who are offended by the word feminist to try to match just so they could argue about the word feminist.
considering that i’m a black liberal woman and racist conservative men still try to match with me i don’t think putting feminist in ur bio is gonna be enough to deter misogynists with peace and love
I’ve got some news for you lol
I’m not currently single but when I have used OLD in the past I make it clear that I’m a feminist as well as being leftist and agnostic. Along with my advanced age and no desire for more kids.
Younger conservative Christian’s men wanting to start a family are all over me. They’ll try to argue with me about why I don’t want to chat let alone date someone I have less than zero in common with lol
My younger daughter and I have both dated men who pretended to be progressive only to expose themselves once things didn’t go their way.
Dating in 2025 is wild for everyone.
Bahahaha this is actually a great idea
I did this on bumble BFF. Not only was he misogynistic, supports Charlie Kirk and his views on abortion, but a nazi too🧍♂️
They’re still going to fuck and leave right after
You assume that men give a flying fuck about that crap. They just want to get laid
Speaking from experience, guys who like radical feminists will go “oo neat”
I like going even more explicit than that. Where prompts allow it I’ll add that:
Women and queer people, be they cis or trans deserve respect, Palestine should be free, that immigrants are welcome and that disability isn’t a personal failing but society’s lack of accessibility.
That weeds out a lot of people.
I think thats going to attract assholes who think they will change you. Better to jump scare them with some Robin Lakoff and Alice Walker.
So naive of you to believe people don’t lie/pretend. It took me 3 to 4 months into dating to realise the guy who called himself “nice” and “progressive” was infact not nice and progressive.
Don’t trust your bf/gf or even friends atleast for the first 6 months. If they can pretend more than that, they’re psychopaths fr lol.
That’s kind of what the abortion question was awhile back for ppl. You can ask that one and it will filter them too. This is not a coincidence 🤣
I’ve had men pretend to be feminist just to get in bed with me and then ghost. They put on a show about talking smack about other dudes who treat women poorly too, and then ended up being that EXACT kind of guy.
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I am guessing there is an overwhelming body of evidence and anecdotal experiences to demonstrate this is not true. Dudes will match anyway, and either lie, or just to be a dick about it and argue about feminism.
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Ehh as someone who believes everyone should be treated fairly. I do find any political buzzword a instant reject regardless of what it is, because im assuming its a huge part of your personality or all you talk about.
Im trying to connect with human beings, not a political ad.
Feminism is too vague, there was a definition of it that I was in agreement with, but I refuse to packaged and shipped with a set of ideals that inevitably change over time. 40m. I just look for signs of high maintenance combined with entitled communication or lack of character. I would never pack all that up and call you trad, because what if I also want a cottage in the woods? What if you make more than me because I’m getting my career started late? (What if someone actually loves me the way I love them!? 😧)
I’m an old soul and possibly dad coded because it’s who I am….but I’m not trying to pump the patriarchy.
I agree. Feminist = deal breaker.
I saw a TikTok yesterday pontificating about why right wing men inordinately go for liberal women because they advocate for themselves and don’t appear so desperate for approval (basically not a *”pick me”*) compared to conservative women. Particularly in regard to women of color, it’s kind of a self respect thing (her words not mine).
That word has very little meaning to it. They can tell I’m a feminist because I have a job and can pay my own bills.
Ladies, if you saw feminist in my (M) profile, bio, or prompt, what are you first impression or reactions? Do you care? Do you want to see that? Should I be sharing that aspect of my beliefs in a profile?
The last thing I’d want is to come off as performative and disingenuous. I’m a feminist and I whole heartedly believe in what feminism represents and stands for. Would love to hear your thoughts.
Unironically great advice. Kind of thing I’ll want my daughter to know when she’s a grownup.
Woah there were button words like this for men to scare away narcissistic women. I mention that I’m socialist to scare away conservative women. But I wish there was a way to screen out gaslighters too.
In my experience men who say theyre a feminist are the most women-hating beings. So totally redflag
That could just attract guys who are Wokefishing
Most men would love to have a partner who works and contributes equally. You know? A real feminist.
you know some women hate that term too?
As someone who is pretty damn feminist and absolutely Left, I agree with this in spirit but I’m not gonna lie and say that I would approach this with caution as I have met a lot of the stereotypical man-hating feminist (grew up with three of them) and I’ve met a *lot* of feminists like to claim a moral high ground and lack a moral consistency. Like I don’t want to date someone who isn’t somewhat feminist, but if she puts that on her profile there’s a part of me that truly wonders what it means to her, as the more vocally declarative feminists I’ve met have absolutely *not* been helping the cause, and I’d rather not be with someone like that. This is something where I feel like listing some of your favorite authors and include like bell hooks might be a good shibboleth to find other good kinds of feminists ya know?
I see just as many women on the apps stating that they’re *not* feminist, conservative, anti-woke, etc as I see women that do state they’re feminist. Both are outnumbered by people marked as non-political or with no political leaning indicated.